3 reasons why your Mother In Law won’t let you breastfeed

Breastfeeding is the most beautiful bond a mother and child shares. It has many advantages for both the mother and child. But sometimes a girl married in a typical desi setup will have many problems while establishing this relationship with her baby. The reason being ‘Sasu maa ki thaanaydaari’.  Your MIL will pretend she feels for you , and during the first days of your mother-baby relationship. She will insist on feeding a bottle to your baby. but don’t fall for it.. it’s a facade !!!

 

Here are 3 reasons why your MIL won’t let you breastfeed.

1. Because saasu maa thinks it will ruin your figure (over kisamm ki bahu ki soch)

Here the bahu thinks that  saas is her well-wisher. She assumes that saaso maa wont let her breast feed coz ‘those’ two friends of yours would become saggy and misshapen. And it would make her husband love you less with a ruined figure (well reality check !!! that’s the ultimate goal of your MIL) so strike this reason off the check list if you are married in a typical desi setup.

2. Less time for household chores

Now that’s what I called one valid reason. If ‘muft ki nokarani’ would be sitting all day, feeding her baby, nursing her/him ‘to ghar k barrtan isska baap dhoyay ga?’. The bahu must not forget that in a desi set up ‘bahu kaam nai karay ge to baytay ki shadi karnay ka faida??’ so MIL will be strictly against breastfeeding, and will do anything in her capacity to stop you.

3. She didn’t breastfeed, so she won’t let you

 

This reason has several reasons!!! First her own MIL didn’t let her breastfeed, ‘kyeun kay saas bhe kabhi bahu the’ so your MIL will apply the ancient formula of taking revenge of her ‘saas’ from her own ‘bahu’.

Secondly your MIL was a ‘haseena-e-alam’ in her ‘jawani’ and she didn’t want to ruin her figure, she did not breastfeed her children.

And for some odd reasons her SON know that she didn’t breastfeed him. Then my dear girl, she won’t let your breastfeed. Reason: “ bahu kay number baytay ki nazar may zayada na ho jain”. This is the worst-case gals. At this point she will harass you, will become ruthless, she will become an ‘anti breatfeeding thulla’ and she will not stop on anyone’s account unless you stop breastfeeding.

These were some covert reasons why your MIL is against breastfeeding. She will never let you know what goes in her mind. so, you’ll have to crack the case yourself.A word of advice: don’t crack her skull while cracking the case, she’s your husbands mother after all :-p.

PS: bottle feed or breatfeed, the choice should always be yours. No one other than yourself has the right decide what is best for your child.

Written by: SBR